Affirmations for Self Talk
Affirmations are powerful and if you get them right, they are an invaluable tool for self improvement. Yet, if it were so easy then why don’t we all just affirm our dreams and realize them? Well, one of the reasons is that we are a bit more sophisticated and evolved than most of the personal development gurus would want you to think. Just because you repeat a positive phrase to yourself over and over does not mean you actually believe it.
Beliefs govern our lives. One of the ways of looking at this is understanding our learning process. We either generalize information, or suppress it, and often it is a combination of both so that we distort it. We unconsciously tend towards “a more of the same” type of information processing, which means that the first beliefs we created are often the strongest and the most difficult to change.
While beliefs are subjective: i.e. they are true for us, they may or may not be true for others. Knowledge, on the other hand, objective in the sense that you can prove it and so can others. We often confuse the two, thus loosing a very important ally that is our rational mind.
Modern psychology suggests that there multiple levels of consciousness and that there are different parts to our personality. Without going into any detail or preference of these abstractions, one model which resonates well for beliefs is to imagine that we have a dreamer, a realist and a doubter part to our persona.
Walt Disney Technique
Walt Disney was well known for applying this technique for problem solving and creativity. He would gather his team and get them all going so that everyone was in a dreamer mood. Then they would go into the realist mood and finally the “devil’s advocate” mood. Records state that they actually changed rooms to enforce the different modalities and used this technique to come up with the most amazing ideas. Applying this technique to fine tune your affirmations can be extremely powerful because you will be completely congruent.
There are several purposes to this exercise. The first one is to accept yourself for who you are. We all have these parts in our personalities and often they all talk to us at the same time. By giving each of these their separate voice you free them from competition. You’re also educating yourself so that you give your creative self freedom to express itself without criticism. At the same time, you’re also developing trust in yourself because asking your realistic and doubtful parts to contribute to the creation process.
You should repeat this exercise once a week for a couple of weeks. Each time, you’ll feel an alignment building up and your congruence with regard to your goals will increase. Now you can go back and choose your affirmations. You’ll be amazed how good these affirmations will sound to you. And because you won’t be fighting back at the unconscious level, these affirmations will actually sink in and get you moving towards your goals.
So go ahead, give your creative part the freedom to speak first, add on your realism and critics then choose your affirmations to pave your road of self improvement.
Live your dreams to the fullest and be your best,